I Don't Want to...

Sometimes the thing you have to do is the thing you most-likely don't want to do. I don't want to restrict caffeine, however when I do, I notice I sleep better and have less lethargy later in the day. Plus, I am not spending money on various caffeinated supplements. Also, I get less headaches, and who knows what other long-term changes this implements. I know the body likes to be balanced and caffeine irregulates a system to override a body's natural process. Is this then not a problem? The imbalance that is. I have to ask myself where are all the nutrients, neurotransmitters, and necessary organ functioning coming from in being able to process the caffeine, not to mention the body to stay amped for so long? When are the withdrawals going to require some deposit? At what time am I willing to give less because of one time I gave more? Substances in general work on the same concept. They take from the body, provide some boost or feeling, alteration of reality, and then later hangovers, withdrawals, feeling like crap due to deficiencies, typically in brain chemicals.



Man, as healthy as I want to be eating kale is so difficult, I just don't want to.

Balance is the key above all else in working with the body. A doctor of varying degrees is pretty much telling you this anytime you meet with them.

"Oh, you have cancer, well there is an imbalance, somewhere in the body, we are going to figure out where, and if the body cannot remedy, then outside intervention will have to take place." However, even in treatment there is a taking the body then has to compensate for later on.

 

So, the one thing we can do as human beings is to live, balanced, and believe that what happens, does so for a reason. This means that if I go to bed on time I won't be tired tomorrow. If I eat foods in quantities that satisfy hunger with nutritional properties that fulfill (typically found in nutrient-rich foods, one ingredient, close to nature, you get it) versus stimulate, then I will not have so many highs, sure, but no large crashes either. If I am mean to somebody because I could not control my emotions, then I am the one left to deal with the guilt or shame afterward. If I have the opportunity, I will apologize, why? Because that is both my punishment as well as the "right" thing to do to paint a better interpretation of myself. I want to validate another human for my mistake, that I was wrong. If I were to control my actions, balance my emotions, then I wouldn't have the consequences.

 

We typically don't want to do things because by avoiding them we think they go away, when typically they get worse. Things like telling the truth, or admitting we don't know or understand something. Whatever sex, race, color, religion we all struggle with honesty and allow little "white" lies that society deems acceptable.

 

"Does this dress look good on me?"

 

"yes Honey." Always say "yes" right?

 

Down the road after many dresses and many "yes" answers, resentment, or animosity builds up, the wife no longer asks for your superficial opinion because she knows you're just saying what she wants to hear.

 

"I'm not a child Steve, you can tell me the truth."

 

"Well, no you're right Deborah. Those dresses do not look good!" (a little hostility and possible intent to harm)

 

"How could you lie to me?" (hurt)

 

Steve and Deborah no! You've got to work this out!

All the while Steve here could have avoided the entire blow up and feelings experienced by both parties by being honest.

 

Honesty is a balancing act, however logically should be an easy one right? After all, we don't even have to bias what we say or do, if it is honest then it's simply acting out the truth, thus avoiding consequences later. Even the argument, "What if I honestly want to punch someone in the face?"

 

To that I would say, "Well, why did you want to punch them?"

 

Then you'd say, "because they were rude."

 

Then I would say, "Did you tell them that?"

 

Then you'd most likely be like, "no" and then I would say, "well, by being honest with them, maybe you could avoid further feelings of wanting to punch them."

 

Etc. etc. These conversations can go on as long as the person continues to justify their emotional response. Sometimes frustration kicks in (another emotion) at which point, no rationale will be applied.

 

After all, when we do the thing we don't want to do to stay balanced and honest, then the reaction of people's is their own. If they have a problem or disagreement with what is being said, that is on them. The truth and balance is meant to be just that, the truth, it is not meant to harm, for harm is a bias that is a result of some uncontrolled emotion. We hurt people because we feel hurt in some way. When you are living balanced, which in many cases involves doing the thing you don't want to do, then your intent is neutral, just to be.

 

So, stay balanced, Stay honest. Stay content.

 

Try it out. It's a trip.