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Our minds are this wonderland of compensation. OK, let me start over, my mind is a wonderland of over compensation. OK, that seems more appropriate.
Initially we all start as good. We are beings brought into this world outside of our choosing, given a purpose of some sort and all is well until we self-actualize. Once we realize what we are doing, what others think of us, how our actions affect others, or, more critically, how others judge or perceive us.
Ah, there it is. How others perceive us and define us by some characteristic. It makes perfectly logical sense that we devote a bunch of energy to this and rather than focus on self improvement, such as self-growth and development, we deviate a little. Rather than reading to expand our minds, something not too popular as a youth, or it wasn't for me at least, we hang out with friends and engage in a little risky behavior. Maybe instead of eating the vegetables we know benefit us, we go to McDonalds. Instead of exercise, we watch TV and have a little bit of alcohol behind the school building, or in my case the back of a Ford Explorer (Fireball I think it was).
We are humans, placed with other humans, who do and act and perform to what our environment teaches us. We deviate from our intended path in some way and some fight to the death to stay on it, others realize it and reset, and still others live life unwilling to alter the one thing it takes to reset their standard. Guilt, shame, resentment, all words contrived from a deviated self, not doing as you subconsciously know you should. Somewhere inside you there is a reminder that where you are spending your energies is not what your purpose is, but we keep doing, instead of listening.
When we deviate and attempt to alter our environments through manipulation and participation in the factors we see glorified, we lose our self. We become confused and waste great amounts of energy on altered states of self. Rather than being more us, we become more like them, the others, the ones who presented to us and them from others. We are wearing 2nd and 3rd hand masks of people we don't even know.
Take for instance, the masculine figure on the latest action movie. He is a written character. The actor gets paid to act and paid to look a certain way and the other actors are paid to engage this actor in just the right way. Many times recognizing or appraising his value based on his looks or dominant actions. Look at sports characters. They too have a role to play. They have to be in-charge, emotion only in the face of loss versus showing contentment and satisfaction. Satisfaction gets you no where in competition or business, "You've got to be hungry." In business, we are taught, "It's just business," as though we are then allowed to do what we want to excel, like the phrase, "I'm just saying."
So again, we deviate and we deviate more and more and then we are so far in that we no longer know ourselves and have to use a lot more energy, typically after a consequence severe enough forcing us to look at ourselves rather than others, to change. We are flawed creatures, that much is true. We live in our own supported communities and the eccentric can become the norm in just the right environment. One idea seems crazy, but we deviate, deviate a little more, question little things here and there, and next thing we know we have lost ourselves to gain the world. The world mind you that has the sane mindset of a business man, "It's just business."
If you feel unfairly treated, then "Sorry kids, it's just the world." We demand knowledge and the truth on which to establish this knowledge, "Sorry kid." We want to be content and demand satisfaction, "Sorry again."
Earlier deviations and recognizing our investment in faulty products can be the source of many of the micro-sized problems leading up to one catastrophic event. Rather than feel discontent at age 45 because you decided to work at a business and earn more money, buy more things, fit a standard you adapted from society, you could look at what is most important to you. Choosing to sit down and see why we do what we do, use our level of insight to figure out, "am I doing this to show adequacy to others." (That one is me.) Maybe you are the kind that fails to see the reason behind the action, maybe Carol has a bigger house and you feel inadequate so you rationalize the desire and NEED for a new house as well. All a deviation, placing the value on things, external, worldly, "just business," things.
Understanding why we do what we do and realizing that the intent might be for some justification rather than personal growth. The children know better. They do what they feel. A toddler teaches me what I forgot along the way. Her simplicity reminds me of parts I have deviated from along the way. Being 32 is not, "over the hill," however I would gladly get over furthering myself from certain characteristics I had as a toddler. Going back to the parts of me I lost.
Strengthen your ability to see the world through eyes that don't yet know it. Full of wonder and awe.
For more on my own story to maybe help with yours, click Here.
Initially we all start as good. We are beings brought into this world outside of our choosing, given a purpose of some sort and all is well until we self-actualize. Once we realize what we are doing, what others think of us, how our actions affect others, or, more critically, how others judge or perceive us.
Ah, there it is. How others perceive us and define us by some characteristic. It makes perfectly logical sense that we devote a bunch of energy to this and rather than focus on self improvement, such as self-growth and development, we deviate a little. Rather than reading to expand our minds, something not too popular as a youth, or it wasn't for me at least, we hang out with friends and engage in a little risky behavior. Maybe instead of eating the vegetables we know benefit us, we go to McDonalds. Instead of exercise, we watch TV and have a little bit of alcohol behind the school building, or in my case the back of a Ford Explorer (Fireball I think it was).
We are humans, placed with other humans, who do and act and perform to what our environment teaches us. We deviate from our intended path in some way and some fight to the death to stay on it, others realize it and reset, and still others live life unwilling to alter the one thing it takes to reset their standard. Guilt, shame, resentment, all words contrived from a deviated self, not doing as you subconsciously know you should. Somewhere inside you there is a reminder that where you are spending your energies is not what your purpose is, but we keep doing, instead of listening.
When we deviate and attempt to alter our environments through manipulation and participation in the factors we see glorified, we lose our self. We become confused and waste great amounts of energy on altered states of self. Rather than being more us, we become more like them, the others, the ones who presented to us and them from others. We are wearing 2nd and 3rd hand masks of people we don't even know.Take for instance, the masculine figure on the latest action movie. He is a written character. The actor gets paid to act and paid to look a certain way and the other actors are paid to engage this actor in just the right way. Many times recognizing or appraising his value based on his looks or dominant actions. Look at sports characters. They too have a role to play. They have to be in-charge, emotion only in the face of loss versus showing contentment and satisfaction. Satisfaction gets you no where in competition or business, "You've got to be hungry." In business, we are taught, "It's just business," as though we are then allowed to do what we want to excel, like the phrase, "I'm just saying."
So again, we deviate and we deviate more and more and then we are so far in that we no longer know ourselves and have to use a lot more energy, typically after a consequence severe enough forcing us to look at ourselves rather than others, to change. We are flawed creatures, that much is true. We live in our own supported communities and the eccentric can become the norm in just the right environment. One idea seems crazy, but we deviate, deviate a little more, question little things here and there, and next thing we know we have lost ourselves to gain the world. The world mind you that has the sane mindset of a business man, "It's just business."
If you feel unfairly treated, then "Sorry kids, it's just the world." We demand knowledge and the truth on which to establish this knowledge, "Sorry kid." We want to be content and demand satisfaction, "Sorry again."
Earlier deviations and recognizing our investment in faulty products can be the source of many of the micro-sized problems leading up to one catastrophic event. Rather than feel discontent at age 45 because you decided to work at a business and earn more money, buy more things, fit a standard you adapted from society, you could look at what is most important to you. Choosing to sit down and see why we do what we do, use our level of insight to figure out, "am I doing this to show adequacy to others." (That one is me.) Maybe you are the kind that fails to see the reason behind the action, maybe Carol has a bigger house and you feel inadequate so you rationalize the desire and NEED for a new house as well. All a deviation, placing the value on things, external, worldly, "just business," things.
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| I think he's selling the watch. All's fair in business.. |
Strengthen your ability to see the world through eyes that don't yet know it. Full of wonder and awe.
For more on my own story to maybe help with yours, click Here.
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