Handsome.
Not me, but a guy I know...
Being called, “handsome,” is like the ultimate, "mom" phrase in describing their sons, or the way my wife says I look when I dress in my "nice" clothes that albeit, are not the most appealing or trendy.
Handsome is defined simply as, "good-looking." Though the act of looking has rarely anything to do with handsome as it applies. Typically, use of the word is in reference to anything but an action or a verb, despite the definition making it seem as though it is therefore an action.
Handsome, as it is defined, refers to the superficial, and that is where it resides. Unfortunately, when you really know a person, calling them handsome, can be difficult, even when they might meet the criteria of being so. A handsome boy with a devilish grin might be more devious than handsome. A mirrored image of the other with a slight distortion. A homeless man, dressed in weathered 3rd-hand clothes with a cheery smile in spit of, may be the most handsome creature you come across. Even animals can be considered handsome for their perfectly aesthetically pleasing faces, divided into perfect symmetry strikes us as such.
Handsome is not a "bad" or a "good" thing, though typically it is used in relation to a positive. Rather, handsome individuals appear to be more modest than an attractive, or even "hot" description. Handsome can also be used in terms of value or sum of money. "He received a handsome settlement from the IRS." This does not mean that the money received was more "good-looking" but merely a larger amount equates to more value than a smaller amount, therefore handsome can be used in it's place as a more of a modest and less-braggy descriptor I guess.
Much like "hot" can be used to describe females, beautiful is more enriched, deeper I feel. A man can be sexy, again, superficial, but handsome seems a bit deeper despite it's superficial dictionary definition.
We all age, we all grow, our skin grows, stops growing or stretching in some areas. We grow hair, hair falls out. We are always in a state of thinking of an ideal self where we fall short to our own standard. Even when we are able to see the standard we are living now, we are encouraged to remain unsatisfied. Either we embrace our looks, or deny them altogether. Either we actively seek attractive people, like a sycophant of the appearance sort, or we deny any opportunity to surround ourselves with such "noble" and "gracious" company. We might feel intimidated even when around people that are handsome, attractive, sexy because we see how other treat them and we also know that by standards of how we have been treated we might not be as "handsome" as they are.
I see one man's face, I admit he is handsome, yet I cannot exactly tell you why. Handsome as "good-looking" means a collection of features. All within my look is good. This man with his "chiseled" chin and symmetrical, clear blue eyes, his thick, naturally-colored hair, his shaped eye brows, his nose that is dominant but not prominent. The classic "high" cheek bones. These features individually can be found on anyone, but the areas in-between the individual features, the parts that connect and how they connect, this somehow makes a man "handsome."
The sense this makes is hard for me to follow with a rational state of mind. It appears as though looks and appeal of the superficial nature alone has to be taken as a general statement. Once you start to piece apart what is good and why, it becomes difficult to attest to.
Behavioral characteristics, representing an innermost self is what I find attractive, so it can be difficult to see a person and simply say they are attractive. Though, even a walk or a few mannerisms can either contribute or takeaway from an attractive self. Acts that are representative of that inside person. Looks alone like "handsome," or using "cute" outside of a kitty or small child can be hard to understand sometimes, especially when you look to the value of a person as a whole.
I am not typically, "handsome" for I am also not fishing for a compliment here. What I did to overcompensate for my looks was destructive when all I was looking for were the compliments from others. The book can be found Here.
Handsome is defined simply as, "good-looking." Though the act of looking has rarely anything to do with handsome as it applies. Typically, use of the word is in reference to anything but an action or a verb, despite the definition making it seem as though it is therefore an action.
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| "My boys are soooo handsome." -Mom circa 2010 |
Handsome is not a "bad" or a "good" thing, though typically it is used in relation to a positive. Rather, handsome individuals appear to be more modest than an attractive, or even "hot" description. Handsome can also be used in terms of value or sum of money. "He received a handsome settlement from the IRS." This does not mean that the money received was more "good-looking" but merely a larger amount equates to more value than a smaller amount, therefore handsome can be used in it's place as a more of a modest and less-braggy descriptor I guess.
Much like "hot" can be used to describe females, beautiful is more enriched, deeper I feel. A man can be sexy, again, superficial, but handsome seems a bit deeper despite it's superficial dictionary definition.
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| Is this is, did I find it? It's hard to find a "handsome" pic when you are purposefully looking for a "handsome" pic. |
I see one man's face, I admit he is handsome, yet I cannot exactly tell you why. Handsome as "good-looking" means a collection of features. All within my look is good. This man with his "chiseled" chin and symmetrical, clear blue eyes, his thick, naturally-colored hair, his shaped eye brows, his nose that is dominant but not prominent. The classic "high" cheek bones. These features individually can be found on anyone, but the areas in-between the individual features, the parts that connect and how they connect, this somehow makes a man "handsome."
The sense this makes is hard for me to follow with a rational state of mind. It appears as though looks and appeal of the superficial nature alone has to be taken as a general statement. Once you start to piece apart what is good and why, it becomes difficult to attest to.
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| The act can contribute a level of attraction, this different than the mere superficial. |
I am not typically, "handsome" for I am also not fishing for a compliment here. What I did to overcompensate for my looks was destructive when all I was looking for were the compliments from others. The book can be found Here.
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